People sometimes ask why I don’t do ‘cord cutting’ rituals. Well, because such thing simply doesn’t exist.
Said that, let’s assume for a moment it does. If it does, then it happens only in the heart. We don’t need ‘cord cutting’ with things or people that have not touched our hearts. Right?
That means, the heart has to let in that someone or something you are trying to cut cords with. No ritual, no matter how well performed, cannot change that. It can just give temporary self-deception that might make us feel better for a while. To then fall back worse than before, trying to figure out why ‘cutting the cords’ (that maybe also cost quite some money) didn’t work…
It didn’t and it doesn’t because it is a lie based on a hope of quick fix that we hope will get us out of the feeling we don’t want to feel. You know, when you’ve just broken up, the thing you long the most is to be free from loving and missing the other person. You want to be free. You want to move on. You’re afraid to fall into the black hole of depression and never get out of it. You’re afraid to get stuck with that person. But you’re not stuck with the person, but the unfelt feelings and pain, ungrieved grief and frustration of not working ‘quick fixes’. There are no quick fixes.
A WOUNDED HEART NEEDS HEALING, NOT FIXING. AND HEALING HAPPENS THROUGH LOVE. We need to give love to our own heart! That is the lesson and task. That is where the heart opens and expands. We need to SPEAK THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART. That language is LOVE. And l o v e t a k e s t i m e!
As Paul says in his letter to Corinthians: “Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.”
That’s why we need to go slow and soft, not rush and cut. We need to give ourselves time and space to feel, to grieve, to release... Heart is not thinking and cutting, but feeling! So we need to take the time, be forever patient and move only as fast as the slowest part of us feels safe to go.
That’s how it goes – love creates love, heart knows the feeling and wraps it in its embrace of infinite love and compassion, just as is its nature. That’s where something that was hard to accept, has found place in the heart, even if just a little bit. But that little bit is real! And that’s what matters.
With each ‘real bit’ your heart expands. And that expansion is real. Your heart opened because it healed, in the natural way, not because you did some hocus-pocus to trick it. And that is really the only way. It is your patience and love for yourself, respecting your own heart, respecting your pain that is the doorway into real healing, real opening of the heart, real ‘cord cut’ with NO NEED TO CUT BUT SIMPLY LOVE.
That’s why I don’t do ‘cord cutting’ but ‘healing through love’ sessions.
Much Love
Magdalena
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